We could all probably point to some time in our lives where we have faced some form of challenge, adversity, difficulty or distress.  This could be related to relationship problems, challenges at work, bullying, bereavement, low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, sadness, long term illness or trauma and can cause us to worry, have sleepless nights, loss of appetite, to over-eat or create feelings of being overwhelmed.

 

It can lead to feelings of anger, frustration and feelings of inadequacy from the inability to manage and cope with what life may throw at us. Sometimes we like to keep these feelings to ourselves as they can be uncomfortable or too personal to talk about, especially to someone you know.  We often don’t like others to ‘know our business’.

 

However, we are all human, very different and totally unique.  What one perceives as a problem, another sees as a challenge.  We all process information differently and because of that difference, is the wonderful creation of our ‘self’.  How one person copes with adversity can be entirely different than the next.  We all cope with challenges in varying degrees, so it doesn’t make one person weaker or stronger, just different.  This can be from our own in-built belief system or sometimes it just needs an objective view from another to put things into perspective.  Our minds’ are incredible and complex and they can be our best friend or our worst enemy.

 

Have any of you seen the movie, Crocodile Dundee?   It is an Australian comedy film set in the Australian Outback

where the main character Mick Dundee, a notorious crocodile poacher has been invited to New York by journalist

Sue Charlton.  In the film he asks her about her life and she tells him that she visits a Therapist to talk over her problems

and pays him large amounts of money.  Mick was shocked and said ‘when we have a problem, we tell Walt, he tells

everybody else and then there’s no problem!’

 

The reason I love that scene so much is because it shows that when we perceive and ruminate on a problem in our mind and keep it to ourselves, it can often become much bigger than it actually is.  Our mind can create so many possibilities or outcomes, more often negative than positive because that’s how our mind serves to protect us, that we can’t see the wood for the trees and the problem can seem insurmountable.

 

Counselling offers a confidential and safe environment giving you the freedom to voice and explore your thoughts, feelings and concerns and helps you to navigate your way through your difficulties and gives you a clearer and better understanding of how to manage them with a more positive approach.

 

At Evoke Resilience I use an integrative approach using some of the world’s most powerful human change technologies such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT); Thought Field Therapy (TFT);

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP); Time Line Therapy; Clinical Hypnosis and Mindfulness/Meditation.

 

For more information on personal consultations or group workshops call

 Jill on 01638 742167 / 07712 446264 or email: jill@evokeresilience.co.uk